In Praise of Leggings as Pants

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My body has a weird thing where it cycles up and down about 20-30 pounds every few years. Before you start with the OMG YOYO DIETING IS SO UNHEALTHY, let me reassure you that I don’t diet, and can only attribute these fluctuates to random stuff like geographical location (no, really), relationship status (really, really), […]

2013 Fatkini Review

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Ok, so this post is kind of overdue, but I haven’t been able to get to the beach much this year living in Indiana. But I plan to enjoy Hollywood Beach every chance I get on my upcoming 2 week trip to Chicago! I’ve been wearing bikinis while fat for about eight years now, and […]

Femmytomboy by Jera Brown

Janelle Monae- classic example of Tomboy Femme style. Portrait by aogwhatisthishith.

I’ve always been a little femme and a little tomboy – a princess and a jedi, comfortable with mascara and power tools. Both terms, femme and tomboy, have visual components: they’re tied to certain fashion choices, as well as mannerisms, even one’s presence. But to me, they’re also tied to how I relate to men […]

There is No Wrong Way to Have an Orgasm. I Promise.

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This post stems from a discussion some friends and I had on Facebook that really indicated to me how starved women are for validation about their personal experiences with orgasm. I am sure this discussion also applies to people of other genders as well although the details might be somewhat different. If you’re a woman […]

Fitness Party: Twerk 2 5K!

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If you’re a Ms. Behaved regular, you’re well aware that editors Bianca and Rashaun are both hardcore fathletes- thick hotties who like to get physical for the joy of it, and bust stereotypes about fat people and fitness. Both Rashaun and I are runners (although I run really fucking slow, I’m out there almost everyday […]

Still Feminist, Size Positive, and “Actually” Fat

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This is a comment I received on Facebook regarding my most recent blog post here at MsBehaved.com.  I wasn’t surprised to receive a comment like this, just disheartened, because I thought I’d made it clear in my article that my ideals were intact even though I did something that is, from the outside looking in, […]

Why Lena Dunham’s naked butt is the best thing to happen on TV in a long while

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“Unlike Seth Rogen, whose career was ruined by losing the weight, the dominant discourse insists that fat girls are worthy of our ridicule, as a woman has to be ‘f*ckable’ to be liked. It’s not enough to give an Oscar-worthy performance. You also have to look like Natalie Portman when you do it.” -Nico Lang […]

My Phoenix Is a FAThlete

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I disappeared from MsBehaved.com during the early fall of last year, when life was blowing up in my face. I lost my awesome job and my great house within about two months of each other, and then moved out of another home about two months later. My attempts at dating were so horrible and humiliating […]

Work It! Intuitive Eating and Body Image Coach Golda Poretsky

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Work It! is an interview series on MsBehaved featuring fascinating folks who work outside the traditional 9-5, to amuse, inspire, and light a fire under your butt to start pursuing the career of your dreams. As a fat Public Health student, I am proud to feature intuitive eating and body image coach Golda Poretsky, HHC […]

Fat and Fit: the Thrill of the Race

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I suppose this tale begins with my wonderful public health cohort-mate Adam: Adam was the person who got me eating Paleo, even though we both sometimes suck at sticking to it. When I came to Bloomington and had regular access to a gym, one of my goals was to improve my cardio since I’d spent […]

Knocking Boots and Knitting Booties: Sexual Speed Bumps

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Knocking Boots and Knitting Booties is a no-holds-barred series about sex during pregnancy from MsBehaved contributor Brighid. Last time, Brighid discovered the magic of Greek yogurt after an ill-timed yeast infection. This week Brighid finds the second semester to be less sexy and more uncomfortable as she deals with the realities of her body changing. Read on! Pregnancy […]

Knocking Boots and Knitting Booties: Yogurt

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Knocking Boots and Knitting Booties is a no-holds-barred series about sex during pregnancy from MsBehaved contributor Brighid. Last time, Brighid battled the libidinal demands of the second trimester. In this installment she discovers some unexpected hurdles for getting her freak on with husband MVP. (Hint: it’s not the big belly…) Well, I promised you pregnancy lingerie, but it’s […]

Knocking Boots and Knitting Booties: Rushin’ Hands and Roamin’ Fingers!

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Knocking Boots and Knitting Booties is a no-holds-barred series about sex during pregnancy from MsBehaved contributor Brighid. Last time, Brighid got pregnant again after a false start, and decided to put fisting and anal play on hold for the first trimester due to some unpleasant physical side effects. Now Brighid faces the libidinous demands of the second trimester! […]

Getting a Few Things Off My Chest

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I have debated whether or not to respond to the ongoing kerfuffle about the snarky essay I wrote about bra fitting and vanity sizing and as a dishonest sales tactic back in April.  The piece ran months ago, with generally positive feedback and thought provoking discussion in the comments. That is, until some people in the […]

I Shaved My Legs For The First Time in A Decade

After: Radical Femme Flava

Read the title up there.  Now, let me clarify something.  I’m only guessing that it’s been a decade since I last shaved.  I’m 31 now, and I know I stopped shaving before I turned 21.  Either way, it had been so long that I actually didn’t quite remember what to do – do I need […]

Turning the Tables: Would it Still be “Hilarious” if Somebody Raped Daniel Tosh?

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I was having a tough time finding inspiration for my weekly post here at Ms. Behaved.  I started a column about how I recently shaved my legs for the first time in over a decade, getting about 100 words in before I gave up, and then I did the same with another installment of Sex […]

Drama Driven Profit and Other Sad Realities of the Feminist Blogosphere

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My gentleman friend recently sent me this article from Salon about creepy depictions of rape in video games, that also touched on the kerfuffle around Anita Sarkeesian of Feminist Frequency (her videos are a must-watch if you haven’t seen them yet) and her Kickstarter to fund a series of videos entitled “Tropes vs. Women in Video […]

Knocking Boots and Knitting Booties: Oops, I Did it Again! Pregnant, Take 2

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Knocking Boots and Knitting Booties is a no-holds-barred series about sex during pregnancy from MsBehaved contributor Brighid. Last time, Brighid succeeded in conceiving, only to experience an inconveniently-timed miscarriage during a 5k race.  Read on… Fortunately for us, we were able to get pregnant again in our next cycle and I currently have a due date […]

Preview: Excerpt from The S&M Feminist: Best Of Clarisse Thorn

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This piece was originally published at Off Our Chests by Clarisse Thorn. Clarisse is a feminist sex educator who has lectured at museums and universities across the USA. She just released a brand-new collection, The S&M Feminist: Best Of Clarisse Thorn, and this piece is reprinted in that collection. Ms. Behaved will be running a full-length Work It! interview […]

Ms. Behaved Style Icon: Amanda Lee

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Name: Amanda Lee Age: 32 Location: Chicago What do you do, in your own words, and how long have you been doing it? My day job is doing graphic design and administrative items at a PR firm. I’m an artist, working mostly in digital collage and I run the queer plus size fashion blog In The […]

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