Fembot Flair: Rashaun Reviews Jimmyjane’s Hello Touch Vibrator

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Awesome vibrator company Jimmyjane recently sent me a few things for our bloggers to test, and I immediately knew the Hello Touch would be my co-editor Rashaun’s jam when it came in the mail. “Do you want to test this robot pussy toy?” I asked her, for lack of a more elegant descriptor. Rashaun’s answer […]

Sex Talk: Women, Sex & Scissoring With C. Fox

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Our new blogger C. Fox of PrettyBoiFox says that scissoring is NOT a lesbian myth.

Western Artists Should Maybe Just Give Up On Writing Songs About Japan

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Hello friends. I just turned in my last grad school project and am officially DONE WITH SCHOOL! Which means I actually have time to blog about random stuff! Even before the Avril Lavigne “Hello Kitty” monstrosity made the news (I’ve included it for reference but it’s legitimately awful) I’ve been thinking about how much I […]

Dating Is Not Fun Or Interesting And You Should Read All About It

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What does it take to be a successful sex blogger? I read a few of the newer sex blogs last night and familiarized myself with traits of a successful sex blogger: must be female, cisgender, blond, thin, and pretty enough to be photographed nude. It also helps to live on one of the coasts and […]

5 Ways to Enjoy a Baggage Free Valentines Day

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This piece is from 2013 but I think some of you may enjoy it in 2014! People get so bent out of shape about Valentine’s Day. I think the problem is we get so hung up on the idea that it’s about having a romantic love interest and corporate bullshit that we totally miss the […]

Food stamps, credit cards, and public vs. private poverty

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I just got food stamps for the first time in my life. I struggled with the decision as a white grad student in my thirties: I’m supposed to be a sort of respectable middle class poor, not food stamps poor. I’m supposed to boot strap my way through grad school, eat ramen, get an extra […]

Hickory Ham Maik on Michelle Obama’s Weird Water-Related Public Health Campaign

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I’ve spent the last 15 minutes being rather baffled by the website for Michelle Obama’s Partnership for a Healthier America campaign to get people to drink more water (file under: procrastination). You can find it here. You might have expected the website to provide you with some tips on how to remember to drink water throughout […]

In Praise of Leggings as Pants

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My body has a weird thing where it cycles up and down about 20-30 pounds every few years. Before you start with the OMG YOYO DIETING IS SO UNHEALTHY, let me reassure you that I don’t diet, and can only attribute these fluctuates to random stuff like geographical location (no, really), relationship status (really, really), […]

Networking for Weirdos

Black Tape for a Blue Girl lyricist and novelist Sam Rosenthal (one of my teen idols) contacting me about reviewing his novel Rye for Ms. Behaved. Not only did I feature him on the blog, I set up a reading for him in Bloomington and got to discover an awesome book and meet one of my favorite musicians in the process. Networking at work!

Professional networking is one of those things that sounds really awful if you’re at all introverted, socially awkward, or hate wearing suits. But today I am here to say that networking is for everyone, you just have to change the way you look at it. Real talk: Knowing people is how you get jobs. Knowing […]

Twenty Years Later: How Have My Teen Idols Aged?

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A lot of people don’t believe me when I say I didn’t have internet until college. I was born in 1980, and raised by a single mother who didn’t have time or money for Prodigy or AOL or whatever nonsense people used in 1993. Another thing is like most goth chicks, all of my teen […]

2013 Fatkini Review

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Ok, so this post is kind of overdue, but I haven’t been able to get to the beach much this year living in Indiana. But I plan to enjoy Hollywood Beach every chance I get on my upcoming 2 week trip to Chicago! I’ve been wearing bikinis while fat for about eight years now, and […]

Femmytomboy by Jera Brown

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I’ve always been a little femme and a little tomboy – a princess and a jedi, comfortable with mascara and power tools. Both terms, femme and tomboy, have visual components: they’re tied to certain fashion choices, as well as mannerisms, even one’s presence. But to me, they’re also tied to how I relate to men […]

My Complicated Relationship with Paleo

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Almost a year ago I experimented with eating Paleo for the first time. For the unfamiliar, Paleo is a style of eating where you avoid all processed foods, with the idea that you’re eating a pre-agricultural diet that is better suited to the human body. The Paleo diet (I don’t consider it a diet in […]

Tomato, Rapper, or Stripper Name?

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As you may already know, I am an avid gardener. Tomatoes are currently in season and while browsing at Lowes, I was shocked to realize that pretty much all of the tomato varietals have names that sound either like rappers or stripper names: Better Bush Beefmaster Tami G Mr. Stripey Big Boy Better Boy  New […]

Let’s Talk About Snacks, Baby!

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Rashaun always posts on Facebook about Graze, this snack box subscription she has where they send her a snack box, every week, for $5 a box, which sounds like a pretty sweet deal. Of course, Graze is like the Studio 54 of snack boxes and you need an invite code to enroll, and Rashaun is […]

Author Interview: Black Tape for a Blue Girl’s Sam Rosenthal on “Rye: an erotic novel”

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Last week we posted an excerpt from genderqueer erotica novel “Rye.” Here is the follow-up interview with author Sam Rosenthal. Name: Sam Rosenthal Age: Older than most people guess. Location: Brooklyn, NY Who are you, and what do you do, in your own words? I’m this guy, who has a son, and runs a record label, […]

Plants Rule Everything Around Me

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Funny things happen in your thirties. Either you start making kids, have an awesome career, or you have to find other hobbies to keep you busy. I’ve outgrown the hobbies of my twenties, such as dating weirdos and getting drunk at goth clubs, and have taken up crazy bullshit like jogging 5 days a week […]

Genderqueer Erotica Excerpt: Sam Rosenthal’s “Rye”

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I was excited to learn about Black Tape for a Blue Girl Lyricist’s erotic novel “Rye.” Not only because I am a fan of his awesome ambient music, which you can check out here, but also because the book honestly approaches topics such as genderqueer identities, kink and polyamory which are seldom realistically explored in […]

There is No Wrong Way to Have an Orgasm. I Promise.

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This post stems from a discussion some friends and I had on Facebook that really indicated to me how starved women are for validation about their personal experiences with orgasm. I am sure this discussion also applies to people of other genders as well although the details might be somewhat different. If you’re a woman […]

Style Icon: Shani Akilah Robin

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Name:Shani Akilah Robin Your age: 29 years old.  It gets better each year! Your location:  Bloomington, Indiana What do you do, in your own words, and how long have you been doing it? I am an anti-oppression advocate/activist.  My area of focus 9 to 5 pm and beyond is anti sexual assault/domestic violence work.  I […]

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